Saturday, September 5, 2009

The one

We all know how it is to fall in love, we bounce from one relationship to another. Till we land on that one relationship that really makes a difference. That's how it normally is. We see couples that have been together that seem like forever. Will that ever happen to me? But then we come across that one person that makes a real difference in your life. That one person that makes all decisions you have made to that point in your life. Making sense, instead of going left you made a right on the path of life.

Decisions that have never really made any sense. Till that one moment. You see this person and sometimes hope that this is the end of being just a me. But hope that it will be a we. No longer being a single but a dual act. Thoughts start racing about you and that person. Then you think some more. Then you come to the end result. You want this person to be the caretaker of the most valuable thing that you have. Your heart! Some people might think they are heartless and it is insignificant. But its still there.

No matter you want to hide it or push it away. Those people do exist. The one person you will be with forever. The one person who makes you complete. It is the greatest feeling that anyone can have and should never deny to their selves. Once you get that feeling. It's like being addicted to a drug and you can't help yourself for seconds.

You ask yourself over and over. Why do i want to be with this person. Then you still are asking the same question over and over. Then you come to that conclusion that this person does make me happy and makes me whole. That missing puzzle in our life. That makes everything fit into place. No matter what the sacrifices that have to be made. Because you know that your place is with that one person.

You are probably reading this and thinking that I'm full of it. But from first hand experience.
Finding that one person is not a myth. Or even some urban legend. It happens, We get lucky to find that one person that completes us. I wasn't even looking for her. I just found her on a Thursday. Now my puzzle pieces are falling into place. Now i can see the broader picture.

That this is the person that I want to be with for the rest of my life.

Tuesday, August 18, 2009

Falling

Now you know who are. You may or may not have experienced this, meet someone that caught your eye. Someone that you couldn't figure out. Someone that you have had a crush on that developed into to something bigger. Like LOVE?

Yes people the big L word! Love, it happens when you least expect it or when you don't really want it. But it calls to you like that last piece of cheesecake. Tempting you to go right ahead and just do it. You know how its like. To get the courage you need to ask that person out. The person you have been secretly admiring for days, weeks, months, years, (i think you get the point) just hoping she would say yes when you ask her out. Or hoping that the man would finally ask you out.

Even it would be a simple cup of coffee to a full blown night out on the town. But don't be afraid to take a chance. Taking chances in life is really worth it. You never know what to expect. That's the beauty of it. Like the famous saying from Forest Gump "Life's like a box of chocolates. you never know whatta gonna get" or my personal favorite "We are shaped and fashioned by what we love." That my blogger friends is from Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.

Now you are thinking. Are there any hazards to falling in love with a coworker or even dating a coworker or even a close friend? Yes there is, you think what if it doesn't work out. Dating for months. Seeing each other on a daily basis. those awkward moments. It's a risk enough just stepping out of the house or even breathing the air now a days. But we still do it.

It's a risk that we all have to take and even make. Just to find out what will happen next. Is this the end of dating. Seeing or being with other people. A actual commitment. But the fear will be there no matter we see it or not. Is he or she right for me? Are we compatible enough? Will this person make me happy or will that person make me cry? Is there something more to his or her intentions? Is this person just after something that i have? What are their real motives? These are all basic questions that we tend to ask our selves, and end up driving us into a corner.

Is it fear of the uncertainty of the future? Its a scary thought. letting your defenses down and vulnerable. From past experiences you might have had, especially if you are a young woman. men chasing you around trying to get something, even expecting something from you. Its hard to fall in love. This even happens to guys. Wrong experience with a woman would shatter their whole perspective with women. Thinking that they are all same.

The only downside to falling in love is a couple of pounds gained. (something the gym would fix)
Wanting to drink all the time. (but lets face it. you like to drink a lot or occasionally anyway)
Feeling depressed (That's why you have really good friends)

But in the end of all that. We still try to find that one person. That makes us complete.